tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9004228480044972221.post4662081222518017975..comments2023-06-11T07:52:38.230-07:00Comments on Robin's Nest: Lonely in MotherhoodAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11060686506110481063noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9004228480044972221.post-17439271893570001942014-01-12T08:16:16.260-08:002014-01-12T08:16:16.260-08:00I guess I have this idea in my head that being a m...I guess I have this idea in my head that being a mom will be easy, and I can still have my identity. I see this more and more, and even since getting pregnant have had non mom friends drop me like a brick. I expected it. But what about pumping? Does that work when it comes to leaving Sloan with hubby for a while, as you get a night out? I'm starting a lite group of random girls to go out and have dinner\movies\bowling once a month. Like a networking group to find friends. The older we get the more excuses we have for leaving the house. I do it and I don't even have a child yet. As much as I imagine going out and having a good time, truth is nothing can be spontaneous these days. Book some times to hang out sans kid with some buddies! Schedule it in your calendar and follow through! Every time I take a night to go out and be me with people I know or barely know I never regret it! Muffyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17221174179485078671noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9004228480044972221.post-51649291598644453262013-10-15T13:52:15.662-07:002013-10-15T13:52:15.662-07:00I think this is a really common feeling. I have hi...I think this is a really common feeling. I have hit this place in motherhood a few times. My advice (based on what works for me) is to reclaim a few of those things you like to do. I know it is easier said than done with a family, but you have to make time for you to enjoy things you like. You also have to make time for you and Dave. Adam and I have both been great about giving each other that space. I go to the movies, girls nights, conferences. He goes to sports events, boys boat trip & game nights at a buddies place. We try to find time together when we can. That is the harder of the two to do. I think it is all too common to get lost in motherhood and forget any other purpose we used to feel we had. I had to put my foot down and reclaim mine. If it helps, here is how I thought of it - I want my kids to grow up seeing their parents as happy, individual people. I want them to see me active in my community, my friends and life outside of our home. Being a parent is the most important job we have, but I want to know my kids see the example of how to be a good parent, a good person with confidence and individual personality and interests. I hope that helps and I don't sound too much like Dr. Phil on you here. If you ever need to talk, you know how to snag me ;)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15039397816062841013noreply@blogger.com